“Your ‘girl’ is lovely, Hubbell"

No matter how many relationships we have, it never seems to get any easier. It’s not the break up part that really cuts you to the core. It’s that very moment when seeing the face of the new person, your replacement which sends your world into pieces. All these stuff brought to my mind a very good movie from the 70’s with our favorite one, Barbra Streisand (well, at least for the ones around my age lol) “The way they were”. The movie tells a story all about complicated love. Barbra’s character, Katie, falls in love with a boy, Hubbell, performance by Robert Redford. She met him from college years before, and both of them begin this long and sizzling on and off relationship. Unfortunately, like the old Spanish saying recites “crazy love lasts little", they rapidly find themselves giving up parts of their own identities and dreams. To make it short, they decided to break up. Years later, when they find themselves  one another face to face, they both realize they are still very much in love with each other, though they are now in different relationships. Katie with a new man, and Hubbell along with a stereo-typically pretty girl. The two have a brief conversation and remember the “The way they were.” Then, Katie turns to Hubbell in the movie’s final moments, and tells him, “Your girl is lovely, Hubbell.” It’s at this point in the movie that Hubbell realizes he still loves Katie, but that they could never be together again, because he could never live up to her standards. and for that reason the best for both is living separate ways. 

We all have lived in our lives these sort of relationships (at least this writer). They are the kind that no matter how you try, things are just never simple enough, and they will never get easier. The problem with these kind of relationships is that they often seem to be the most satisfying and vibrant. In this torrid romances the highs are high and the lows are low (sometimes more than the highs). Yet at the same time they’re the harshest, because by the time you realize they are not going to work, it’s too late since you are already in love. So, at the end, each one decide moves on to the next relationship. Some people take time to heal, while others just jump in to whatever comes there way next. It’s just something inevitable that we will all have to face at some point.       

The most difficult part when all this happens is when you find out that your old partner is dating another person. Indeed, you realize that the next one after you is gorgeous and he has all that you don’t. Although all of this you find about it, you realize that you could describe the new person in one word “simple”. He could be hotter and younger or whatever you want yet “simple”. This is the very moment in which you find yourself perfect in your imperfection. It’s your imperfections and your different views on life that make you unique and perhaps that uniqueness is the difference between you an the that  “next one”. You are just unwilling to change who you are for anyone. You are wild, unpredictable, yet… charming to almost all those you meet. Why??... Because you are defined in one word “real.”  
For all these reasons, you wouldn't say “I'm hot” but you would say “I’m unique”. Although growing up, a little bit in your awkwardness, but still learning how to love yourself.   You want your life to be validated by more than pictures of you in underwear, or by having the “hot boyfriend.”  You are yourself, and no one else.       

Actually, It takes a lot to admit when you’re just not right for someone (tell me about it!!) but it takes a lot more to be happy for them for moving on. In fact, too many "what if’s" will come to you but it’s not fair to you at all. Life has taught me to be a good loser. Maybe that’s the reason I can admit that I deserve the best. Why should I change the person I am, the person he fell for, just because he couldn’t keep up? That’s why I truly believe that I am better off finding someone that is right for me. A real person who fits my craziness and fun-loving spirit. The one who work that "little extra" because those people realize the “simple” people are a dime a dozen, and those “real” ones are one in a million.